Popping the cherry is a slang term for when a woman has vaginal sex for the first time and her hymen stretches and bleeds. A hymen is usually a very thin layer of skin. It is naturally stretched with physical activity, sexual activity or using tampons. Some may bleed a little and some may not.
A hymen that has not been stretched is often considered a sign that a woman has “lost her virginity”. Most women actually don’t have an “intact” hymen by the time they start having sex. To have a good first experience with sex it helps if both people feel relaxed and aroused and are paying attention to what feels comfortable physically and emotionally. The key here is to talk to each other and go slow.
Scientists still aren’t sure whether people are born with their sexual orientation or whether it develops over time. What they do know for sure is it’s not something peoplecan change about themselves. A person might want to use the label “gay” if they find their sexual attraction is mostly toward people of the same sex as themselves. It is normal to have some sexual feelings or a lot of sexual feelings for people the same sex as yourself. Attraction is as simple and uncontrollable as who makes your heart flutter. Curiosity and attraction toward people the same sex as yourself is totally okay and it’s up to each pesron what label, if any, they want to put on it.
Although it may not always feel fun, being a teenager is a pretty unique time in your life - you are midway between childhood and adulthood so you get to dabble in both worlds.
Being part way to adulthood means dealing with relationships, crushes, thoughts about sex, your own sexuality and your feelings for other people. You might have been experiencing some of this for a while already, but in a way it will also seem new too. Everyone has different experiences and the more information you have about sexuality, the better prepared you will be to navigate all this with confidence.
A lot of teens are embarrassed to ask questions about sexuality or feel pressure to appear like an expert already. This is kind of silly when you think about it. How can a person know everything about something that they are just going through for the first time? That’s where this website can help.
These links will take you to topics or sections of the website that are the most relevant to your life. It is a good place to start. There is lots of information on the rest of the website too so look around and see where your curiosity leads you.
Am I Ready For Sex?
Reproductive Anatomy: All About Females
Reproductive Anatomy: All About Males
Talking about Safer Sex
The Basics About Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)
Is this an ethical relationship?
Head, Heart, Genitals
To make a thoughtful decision about sexual activity all three aspects need to be checked each time someone has sex:
Head Ė Ask yourself:
Why am I doing this? Do I agree with what is going on? Does this fit with my values? How will I feel about this decision later?
Heart Ė Ask yourself:
Do I feel safe and comfortable with this person? Does this feel right to me? Do I like this person? Can I trust them?
Genitals Ė Ask yourself:
What does my body want to do? Do I like whatís happening? Am I, and is my partner, protected from STIs or pregnancy?
You have the right to change your mind and stop a sexual activity at any point while it is happening. And it is your partnerís responsibility to respect that. It is also your responsibility to check in with your partner and to respect their feelings about a situation if they want to stop, slow down or take a break to sort out their thoughts.